#66 Radical Responsibility

Today’s episode takes a soft approach to a difficult concept. Radical Responsibility. Join Dani in navigating a reframe of an often heavy energy.

Dani Faust is a hypnotherapist and certified Life Coach, Mindset Coach, Intuitive, Energy Healer and Spiritual Teacher currently based in Atlanta and holds certifications in EFT, Meditation, Breathwork, Reiki, NLP and more.

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 We are back. Hey si. Welcome back to the Manifest It Says Podcast. I'm so glad you're here and today we are. Diving into something that's not always easy, but can be like absolutely transformational. If you wanna manifest the next level or your 2.0 in life relationships business, your relationship with yourself, everything we're talking about, radical responsibility.

I know, I know it's not sexy, but please unclench your butt cheeks. And let me just say, radical responsibility is not about blame, shame, fault, excuses, et cetera. It is 1000% about power, about moving out of victim mode.

About owning your ish as a creator, as a leader, as the woman you're meant to be. So we're talking about that today, and I want you to be very gentle with yourself as you take in what we talk about today. Okay? Because I am sharing it with a very gentle. Love led energy and I hope that you feel it in these, few tips that I'm gonna share with you today.

Actually, I'm not even gonna call it tips. Let's call it ideas to reflect upon. Okay. And allow it to guide you, whichever way you believe it should.

Okay. Now, before I jump into these, I wanna just say thanks for rocking with me, sis. Also,



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I know that is big for everyone. So come take a look. Come see if it's up your alley and uh, I think you probably will be. If you like this podcast, you'll love the group. Great souls are in there and. You're a great soul, so join us. All right, we're gonna get into these, and again, I want you to listen with a very gentle and loving heart, and where you feel called out in this episode, I want you to reframe it in a loving, gentle, soft way, as if you're talking to that little 6-year-old girl inside of your heart.

Okay?

All right, here we go. So number one is that every roadblock is a mirror. Every challenge is a mirror. Every issue, hard time drama, it's a mirror. Okay? And I want you to recognize that. Also a mirror are all the wins, happy experiences, best days of your life. Look around everything that you have manifested.

All of this is a mirror, a displaying for you externally. What is happening internally? Your outside world mirrors your. Predominant frequency inside. We can get into that on a deeper level in another episode. I'm not gonna belabor it, but I want you to recognize that you as a leader, a mom, a colleague, a manager, a friend, a sister.

A family member, period. You create 70% of the vibe in any space. Home work with friends, 70% of the vibe in any space, any container comes from the leader. And that's you. Because who's the main character of your story? If you didn't just say me, I swear to God. So if things are feeling stuck, if things are feeling like you have a roadblock up against something, you're always hitting a , an issue.

I am gonna need you to look at yourself now, looking at yourself versus trying to fix everybody else or looking externally. Is the power position. If you can ask yourself honestly, without judgment, shaming, blaming, or making yourself at fault, if you can ask yourself, where in my leadership, my voice, my vision, my actions, where is this coming from?

That's the power move. That's the power question. All these challenges, perceived challenges, perceived roadblocks. Let me be sure to say that word in front of it. All of those perceived issues are really an invitation for you to grow as a leader, as a person, as a sister, as a, whichever area of life the roadblock is popping up.

That's your invitation.

We've all been in spaces where we felt stuck. Just not moving ahead. Things aren't working out. There's some thing,

and all that means is that you've gotta shift. You have to look in the mirror and recognize that you shift first. Then magic happens. Remember, we are a be do halve, be that energy, that leader, that visionary, et cetera, do the thing that that and enhanced 2.0 ish energy would do. So you can have the outcome that you're looking for.

So what is your current challenge? What is your current challenge? That is actually an invitation for you to grow woman up, right? It's always a, an opportunity to woman up, to level up to prove it. Like, prove that you do want to go in this direction. Now, if that was hard for you to hear, if that was not a gentle reminder for you and you're sitting there like, what the fuck?

What do you mean it's all my fault? X, y, Z, blah, blah, blah. I want you to recognize something. It's number two, blame blocks growth. Now that means blaming others, which usually is our go-to, and blaming yourself.

I want you to detach the idea of responsibility and ownership from blame or fault or shame, and that is a process. So don't think that you can easily, like, boop, okay, I'm over it. I no longer connect those concepts. It takes time. It's a changer. But I want you to start actioning on that ASAP in the event that it takes, uh, a lot of effort.

Okay? So blame blocks growth. There's a saying from Jim Roh and he says, I think I'm gonna mess this quote up, but I think he says, you can't change the circumstances, the seasons or the wind, but you can change yourself. Now, I don't love the quote, but what I do love is the reminder that there are things that are fixed.

Circumstances will always come around. The seasons will change. There'll be ebbs, there'll be flows, there'll be good times and bad, and all you can do is respond. I know he says change yourself, but that sounds like you need to be fixed and you're broken. So change, and that is not how we play around here.

So. Instead of it being change yourself, it's an opportunity to shift, to grow, to adjust, to reframe. When we blame people for an issue, whether it's our boss, our kids, the fricking , mercury retrograde, the economy ourselves, we're giving away power. We're giving away our power, our energy, our alignment, our steadfastness.

The truth is that like when you stop asking, why is this happening to me? Who did this? Why? Where outside focus, outside focus and start saying, Hmm, how can I shift this? How can we tweak this? How can we quick remedy this really quick? That's the growth point. That's the power position.

Growth happens when ownership is taken, when responsibility is taken, and blame isn't. Hand it out. That's literally a waste of time looking for who to blame about this, because tell me, how does blame make something better?

That was a dramatic pause because it doesn't, so I want you to think about where am I blaming instead of focusing on what I can influence, where am I blaming instead of I. Taking ownership and doing what you can to remedy a situation.

The shift will always have to come from you. The shift will always come from you. I, um, I do mindset coaching for business entrepreneurs, and I tell 'em they can hop in my inbox anytime. And this one woman, she runs a, well, I'm not gonna put her business down the street. She runs a business that's making big money and she had repeated issues with team, with her team, and she came back a few, a few months in a row to me asking about.

Basically the same issue and blaming it on the person who, like her right hand person, her COO, the COO is not doing this. The COO is not doing that. She's not handling the team this way. And I was like, okay, so if this is your business and your responsibility, what can you shift? We, that was the first month that she came to me, the next month that she came to me.

It was really more of the same and no real significant response about what she can do to remedy. And the third month I was like, here are some options of things you can do to remedy. Which one of these sounds like something you can do. And it was just, you know. Basics, like re updating the SOPs, going over systems, hiring a new COO, hiring a new team, like all of the different various options that where she can take action and ownership and therefore get through this whole team's drama with them not fulfilling what they're supposed to be fulfilling.

And the COO not forcing them, that's not a good word, that's not a good word. Not forcing, not encouraging them to do their fricking job. It was messing with her money. It was messing with her piece. She was watching her revenue just dip her. What are those things called? Her Google, , rating. Her little four and a half star rating went down to like three.

She was freaking out blaming the COO and when she stopped and said, oh, okay, I, I really have to take the ownership of this. I can't blame. She had the growth spurt, right? That aha moment of, oh shoot, it's me. Hi, I'm the problem. It's me. Who thinks that for, you know what I'm talking about? Anyway, that growth moment, that's where it happens.

That aha, oh, no one's gonna come save me. I have to do, this is the magic. So where are you blaming versus focusing on what you can influence what you can? Change in how you can reshape something. Now that I've said that, I wanna go a little bit deeper into this concept of responsibility, not equaling fault or blame or shame.

Okay? I forget who says this, but they say between stimulus and response, there is a space. And in that space is our power. Taking responsibility is not about beating yourself up for mistakes.

It's not about shame. It's not about should a coulda, woulda, it's about power.

You can say, yes, I'm gonna take responsibility for this without piling blame on yourself. That that alone is a very freeing shift. And for all sidebar, for all of my children of Caribbean parents, of immigrant parents, I want, I wanna free you, especially all my daughters, all my firstborn daughters of Jamaican parents.

This one's for you. A mistake is a mistake. A misstep is a misstep, right? You do not deserve to be blamed. Scolded, chided, shamed, guilted for making a mistake. Even if you make that mistake more than once,

even if you air, quote, should've known better. There is no benefit to pouring fault on a wound.

None whatsoever.

You can let that go. You can take that off your shoulders. You can release that habit. You can release that belief

Words. Words have a lot of power. Fault is a big one. It's a very heavy energy and we use it very lightly. For example, I don't know if this is in New York or in just black spaces or what, but like if a guy bumps into you on the subway or whatever, it's like, oh, my fault. It is so light. It's just like a, my bad, or excuse me, or sorry.

However, is it really your fault? Are you at fault? Technically, okay. Yes. You bumped into me, sir. Technically, you are at fault, and if this was a car, you'd be paying my insurer or whatever. However, is it really a fault?

Are you really to blame? You miscalculated the distance between you and I when you were walking. It was literally a misstep. Do you deserve to take ownership? Sure. Do you deserve to be blamed and at fault? Should I scold you now because you bumped into me? Should I yell at you and rant and rave? That's insane, right?

So I'm gonna need you to stop doing that to yourself internally when you make a misstep. I'm gonna need you to be much more gentle with yourself through your wins and your losses for your perceived failures, everything.

You don't deserve to be stuck in guilt. You do deserve to be taking responsibility, using that as a power position, because that's what it is. Take that ownership, buoy, that energy within you and use that to move forward. That's growth, that's healing. That's learning. That's growing.

We don't wanna confuse responsibility with fault, guilt, shame, or blame. And we often do it it is so tightly linked in so many people's minds. So how can you reframe these things so that you can reclaim your power position to reflect on, ask yourself, where have I confused responsibility with fault,

and even deeper? How can I reframe it to reclaim my power? Listen, reframing is beautiful. I can put rose colored glasses on almost anything. We can find a silver lining, we can reframe, rename. It's beautiful. You get to decide, right? You get to decide what you make things mean. What you wanna believe about a situation.

You've decided what you wanna believe about responsibility,

and now I'm hoping that you shifted a little bit away from fault. Shame, blame, guilt. Okay, let's go into a freer energy. A freer energy where hey, things happen and I'm still okay. I'm still loved and lovable. It's all good. It's okay for you to say, Hey, what role did I play in this event happening in this roadblock?

What role did my choices, my habits, maybe my blind spots, my biases play in this happening. That's how you unlock wisdom. That's how you unlock growth. That's how you align with the best version of yourself, the your higher self, your god self. That's how you open up to that level of love and honesty and truth within yourself.

My last little bit on this is owning it fully. Then sharing the load.

Winston Churchill said that the price of greatness is responsibility. And that is so effing true. And I think I heard this quote for the first time back in like freshman year of college and I was like, this is a bull. 'cause I didn't get it. I just didn't get it. But it's legit, the realist. If you are responsible for nothing to no one for anything, how on earth can you be great?

It's that ownership,

it's that integrity, that ownership, that taking the lead, that shoulders back, chin up, vibe. Knowing that this is the right thing to do and I'm gonna do it, this is, , my responsibility and I'm going to fix it. Knowing that, knowing that

is the price of greatness, you can't be an irresponsible leader. You can't be an irresponsible. CEO. You can't be an irresponsible mom of the ear

if the word irresponsible triggers you. I want you to reflect on where did it turn word to responsibility and irresponsibility turn into a slur versus two ways of taking action.

Words have meanings, words evoke feelings, words trigger memories, and I don't want those triggers to block the message. Block the blessing that is within this episode here.

When you fully own something, you stop half stepping and. From there, you empower others to do the same. Like legit. When you're, when you're at work and you're being your best self at work, your team can't be your colleagues. They can't be raggedy. 'cause they'll be like, oh shoot, Stephanie's outshining me.

Hold on, lemme get my ish together. That's how you're a leader in any space, right?

And you being that light, that light of full power. Owning it, taking responsibility, leading with whatever you wanna lead with, light love, whatever you owning that and being that bright light can only help others shine too.

Ownership first and then. Delegation, and it doesn't have to be direct delegation. It can be just, , felt from you and then acted on by others around you.

There are little things in my household that no one really owns, and then I'll do it begrudgingly, or my husband will do it begrudgingly or we'll scream at the kids to do it and they'll do it begrudgingly. But when we got a little more organized in how we are rotating things that no one wants to do, sharing that load, all of us taking ownership for this is our house and we wanna keep it beautiful, everything just flows smoother.

I want things to flow smoother for you. So to reflect on. Think about an area in your life that you need to fully own. Whatever just came to your mind. First is the right answer, and then figure out how you're gonna share responsibility or take full responsibility and then delegate or support your team, your partner, your family, to share responsibility.

I hope this didn't feel too heavy for you, and I just wanna say, um, real talk. It is September 9th at 11:48 PM I was in my bed an hour ago. I have a beautiful podcast that I was planning on coming back to the show with. That'll just be next week, I guess. But I was in bed. I was doing some additional channeling for my MMM group and I was like pushed out of bed into action.

I just knew that that episode that I created was not the one for tomorrow, september 10th, best day of the year. I, I'm in this season of being obedient, you guys, and

I mean, in a way that is responsibility, right? I'm taking responsibility for doing what I am being guided to do and it's not always the most fun. 'cause I was snuggled up, I was watching the last season of you. And I was happy as a clam. Then it was like, oh, you've got a channel. Great. Turn off my tv, get up, go sit down to channel, and then it hits me.

Okay, we have to talk about radical responsibility to begin the podcast back up again. And I gave myself a little time to like, do I really? I mean, we have this one already queued up, it's ready to go at midnight, yada, yada, yada. But I held my integrity and I came here into my closet and I did this hopefully quick recording for, for you, for whoever really needed to hear this reminder and for myself, because I'm owning.

My channel, I'm owning my gifts a lot more and I'm owning and I am taking more responsibility for delivering the messages that come to me and not being selfish and or lazy or whatever, and holding it back for my comfort. So

just to wrap up one, I love you. Thank you for listening. I hope that there was something that hit home for you two. Again, radical responsibility is not about blame, it's about power. Moving from victim to visionary. Ooh, that sounded good. From victim to visionary and into, from a place of like reaction to leading.

So

when you ask yourself, what is my role here and what is my next empowered move? That's when your energy shifts. I hope you took down some of those reflection prompts. I'd love to hear your stories around this. If you feel called to share, because I do believe that with this full moon from September 7th and eighth and there's 9, 9, 9 portal today, there is this energy of taking ownership, taking responsibility.

And allowing more janky energy to fall away from you. And that's, that's probably the main reason why I got out my butt out of bed and channeled and got this ready for you at now, 11:53 PM So I'm gonna go, I love you, step into your radical responsibility, and if you need support, get at me. You can reach me at hello@dannyfaust.com or on Instagram at the Danny Faust.

And yeah, I'll see you next week.